One of my friends who I was close to high school is now getting divorced.

We really haven't talked much or seen each other more than 5 times in 15 years.   We are friends on facebook so I get to hear her brag about her new job and post pictures of the same grainy pose "selfie" same expression, save camera view.  Hooray.  You have a tiny dog, good for you.  Thanks for the endless dog selfies. 

Since she is now getting divorced, she has came to visit twice from DC. 

First time I bit the bullet and wasted an evening having dinner with her.   She is okay but I feel like I don't want to hang out.  It was expensive, and she wanted "girls only." I don't really know her anymore.  She (for example) brought her tiny dog with her on the last visit and left me a message Monday morning asking if I could take the dog for Monday because she had plans all day.  WTF.

Now she is back again and wants to go to dinner.  I feel like I did my duty already this year.  Friendships don't last a lifetime based on facebook and a very rare visit.  Since accepting her dinner invite on google calendar, she has sent me 3 updates to the dinner time in ONE fucking day.

I guess I just don't really want to be friends anymore.  Is that normal?  I could care less about meeting for dinner.  Other than pretending I am constantly busy, I feel stuck.

Seems like most married people abandon their friendships, and suffocate their spouses with their social needs.  When come divorce time, all the friends you abandoned have moved on.

But you shouldnt feel obligated to hang out with someone you no longer feel a connection with. Not all friendships become lifelong.

Judging from your lack of interest in seeing her again, I would nip it in the bud and stop wasting each others time. She will live and go latch on to someone else

I also have some HS pals, who are miserable at home, and keep calling me to hang out at boring events. One of them only likes going to do things that are free (street fests, free concerts, .25c beer nights). Its a shame

And then there's my friends with new kids.

That pretty much is the nail in the coffin.  If we maintained a friendship after both being married, its a "possible friendship."  2 friends have to become 4 friends.  Usually it is strained.

But you want to bring your kids along?  Want to send me kid pics and post em every day on facebook?  Invite me to their 1st birthday party?   (Why the fuck would they even need a party?)  Use your kid as a last minute excuse when you flake?  Fuck you.  I distance myself.

Eh, I've been there; hanging out with a 'friend' that I no longer have anything in common with. I agree with Silver, don't feel obligated, or my the visit short, say "I can meet you for a drink for an hour, but then I have an appointment to get to."

You never know if you (or me) might be that person who just needs a little social interaction, to see someone familiar and talk for a bit. It's good karma to just deal for a while with that person. But don't make too big of a sacrifice of your time.

LOL @: "I just deleted another facebook "friend" for dressing up like a sexy referee because it is super bowl Sunday.  I don't need to see this kind of stupid."

Sounds like our perve is growing up and leaving the old silly party life behind. Very cool. I'm the same way: "Been there. Done that." Time to move on.

Hardened?  I don't want to see a "woman" in her late 30's dressing like a slutty referee because it's Superbowl.  It makes me think she is a slut and an idiot and I don't need to be friends with slutty idiots.  I am barely friends with Lisa.

Dog Anus got married.  Here is a pic....

Remember that other chick Wade was trying to cheat on me with?  The one with the "stick it in my ass" pictures who was trying to be a model:?

I fucking saw her on TV yesterday... in a commercial for some trade college.

She was dressed up in scrubs saying "Thank you, Concord"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvWubsY7tuY

Here is her commercial