3 months ago I found out my friend/acquaintance's boyfriend was also sleeping with another woman and I told her.  She called the other woman who denied it and she went back to sleeping with him.  Since that, she has been standoffish towards me but has demanded that I tell her if I hear he is sleeping around again.   Yes, once again he is sleeping with the same woman as he was before, I know her too.  But I already told her he is a cheater and I don't want to be involved.  She hasn't been nice to me since I told her the first time.


Another one - I am working on a restaurant with a 200k budget.  Initilly we were told that we would not need an ADA lift.  After consulting numerous city planners, they are demanding that we install a lift to the second floor.  I called around and a lift that large is 37K.   The owner has been absolutely clear that he does not want a lift, but they won't permit the project without it.  I have to tell him- and soon - that he must install a lift.  He is going to go apeshit on me.  I don't know how to break it to him without making him incredibly angry with me, even though it is not my fault.   How can I tell him?

Just be blunt with him, and tell him you tried every way to not use a lift, but in order to get the permit, he absolutely must get the lift. There is no way around it, it's not your call, you and he have to play by the rules. If he gets pissed off at you, remind him, that you didn't make the rule, you just have to follow them.

I told him about the wheelchair lift.  i did some research and found one for 18k instead of 35k. 

He went batshit about it on the phone for about 15 minutes.  I kept telling him that he was yelling at the wrong person and that I'd done everything I could to try to change the outcome, and at least we didn't have to provide fire sprinklers.  (not yet anyway)  He keeps insisting that I contact the federal ADA group and they will "put me in touch with an ADA lawyer for free"

Later he sent me a text that said "That's okay Denise put the lift in"

Agreed.

The ADA laws are pretty extreme.  For example did you know you need 24" clear on the pull handle side of the wall by a door per the ADA law?  12 inches clear is required on the push side. 

The size of the individual single stall ADA restrooms are becoming huge as of 2013.  Why can't they have a unisex restroom? 

This client wastes money on all kinds of things but is suddenly strapped when the lift became required.   

2 girls one cup is better than this thread. Kill the messenger.

I'll agree with that, but only because I wanna be your friend so your people don't pull in Montreal what you pulled in Brussels and Paris.